Toxic Birth Mother

Toxic Birth Mother

Today, I can’t stop thinking about the chaos my birth mother has brought into my life over the years. I wonder why I allowed her back in, knowing she would only continue to cause harm. It’s beyond me why anyone would subject themselves to this kind of pain over and over again. She always tries to manipulate people into believing she’s a good mother, but the truth is far from it. She may have friends from 50+ years ago, but that doesn’t mean they truly know her. Behind closed doors, she has always been deceitful and two-faced. She’ll charm you to your face but then talk badly about you behind your back. If it benefitted her, she wouldn’t hesitate to throw you under the bus.

As I sifted through my emails today, I stumbled upon a few that I plan on sharing on my blog to make them public. It’s important for people to see the truth. What struck me even more was how the birth mother’s daughter kept visiting my Facebook page and clicking the link to my blog post, only to go back on Facebook and play the victim. But in reality, they are causing their own hurt feelings by constantly monitoring my online activities. It doesn’t bother me personally, but I am keeping track of every page they click on, which device they use, their IP address, home address, search engine, and even if they attempt to print or email any content from my website. This is why I decided to invest $119 in a tracer to prove their daily stalking behavior. Despite being blocked on my end, it’s obvious they have created fake accounts to continue spying on me. If they don’t want to know what I’m writing about, then they should simply stop reading it. It’s as simple as that – no need to play the victim when you’re causing your own problems!

I stand by everything I have written and refuse to apologize for it because it is all true. In the past, whenever I posted on Xanga or MySpace, these two individuals would report my posts and harass me until I backed down and allowed them to continue their attacks. The birth mother was particularly skilled at causing trouble for me in our small town. But after the last time I let her back into my life, I promised myself I would never allow her to walk over me again or make me upset. The fact that she can’t control me or silence my voice infuriates her and her daughter. They even attacked my innocent grandchildren, who had nothing to do with their conflicts with me. Despite what the birth mother may claim, there will never be a relationship between her and my grandkids – my family has made that abundantly clear.

The strange thing about all of this drama is that the woman has a grandson whom she raised poorly. If she had been a responsible parent, he wouldn’t be facing murder charges. Yet, her grandson was arrested on December 23, 2022, for killing a young man. I’ve shared my thoughts on this situation in my blog, but I want to highlight how the birth mother and her daughter are now claiming they don’t want any trouble since their grandson is out on bond and under house arrest. But if that were truly the case, wouldn’t they try to avoid drawing attention to themselves with their offensive Facebook posts? They have shared content involving blackmail, marijuana use, hate speech towards minors, and threats towards us. It seems like the district attorney would take notice of their behavior and character. The birth mother has always been one to meddle in others’ affairs instead of focusing on her own family. Perhaps if she had been a better parent, her grandson wouldn’t have fallen into bad influences. However, they are more worried about what I say on my blog and social media instead of monitoring their own actions. It may be best for them to stay off social media if they truly want to avoid any further troubles.

Back in 2022, there was a falling out between the birth mother and her daughter. They would argue back and forth online, even dragging me into their drama. I still have screenshots from Facebook that show the exact behavior the birth mother is displaying towards me now. In the past, she accused my sister Jaime of stealing movies and other items and claimed they were being sold. The birth mother has a history of accusing everyone, including friends, of stealing from her. It’s sad because I have never stolen anything from anyone and never plan to – I wouldn’t want it done to me, so why would I do it to someone else? I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve been falsely accused of stealing things that were given to me or inherited from my sister’s belongings. This includes photos and objects. Just like my sister Jaime, when her son gets his own place, he will inherit her belongings as per her wishes. But this birth mother has made up stories about giving me photos and objects because she claims she didn’t want them to get ruined. It’s mind-boggling how much she has fabricated just to play the victim. I could probably count on both hands and feet the number of times she has falsely accused me. And let’s not forget about her daughter trying to steal medication from my husband’s room on December 24, 2021 – we caught her on camera and our alarms went off. This same daughter has a history of stealing since she was a young child – she used to steal magazines from Books A Million or rip pages out and put them in her pocket. When we would confront the birth mother about it, she would make excuses and refuse to take her daughter back into the store to apologize. My children witnessed this behavior and knew it was wrong – they even told on her. But the birth mother never taught her daughter that stealing is wrong; instead, she condoned it and basically gave her daughter permission to steal. This same daughter has also stolen money from the birth mother’s purse and shoplifted multiple times from Walmart stores in different counties.

One of the things that bothers me most is how the birth mother and her daughter enjoy shaming people for their weight, despite both of them being overweight themselves. They use it as a tool for bullying others. As someone who suffers from diabetes and has been on medication for 14 years, my blood sugar levels were not in great shape. My pancreas was overloaded with insulin, causing health issues for myself. But instead of showing empathy or understanding, the birth mother and her daughter attacked my health situation and even made public posts about my daughter’s and my own struggles, using animal faces to mock us as “whales,” “cows,” and “pigs.” While this didn’t push us over the edge, I can only imagine the damage they could cause to someone else struggling with their weight. However, I want to state that my entire family has made healthier choices and we support each other. Since starting insulin injections, my blood sugar levels are now under control, and I no longer have issues with my pancreas. I don’t share photos because of the trolling from the birth mother and her daughter. However, I have received many positive comments about my progress. Losing 55 pounds has been an incredible achievement for me, especially since I haven’t been this weight since my 30s. Not only that, but all my lab results are perfect and I am able to do so much more and truly enjoy life. We no longer eat unhealthy foods like burgers and fries; instead, our diet consists of nutritious meals without chips, candy, ice cream, or soda. It’s unfortunate that by sharing this experience, the birth mother and her daughter will likely have something negative to say about it. However, I am not trying to impress them – I am proud of my strength through all the drama and challenges with my health journey.

I’m going to wrap up this blog post for the evening. I’ll be back on Thursday to continue where I left off, or at least attempt to do so. Thank you to all of my subscribers and those who have liked and supported my posts. Goodnight, world.

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