Sister's Murder, 25 Years Later

Sister’s Murder, 25 Years Later

Lately, I’ve been dealing with something that has been weighing heavily on my mind. It’s about my sister, who was brutally murdered on June 27, 1999. She wasn’t just my sister; she was also my best friend and a loving mother to her son. This year marks 25 years since she passed, and I miss her every day. My sister was someone who never put up with any nonsense or BS, and I know she would have stood up to the people causing trouble now. Despite what some may think, she wouldn’t have hated me for speaking out against these individuals. In fact, she would have been proud of me for standing my ground. Her death changed something in me, and over the years, I’ve learned to stand up for myself thanks to her example. But in the first few years after her death, those same people who caused her harm turned their attention towards me. They bullied, harassed, and stalked me online constantly. However, I made a decision that I would never let them make me feel weak or small again. They tried to intimidate me with threats from their lawyers, but I refused to back down because I knew it only made them stronger in their hateful behavior. These people didn’t realize that their actions only made me stronger and more resilient than them. While we were out running errands or enjoying our lives in Florence, South Carolina, we would often come across these same crazy individuals who would publicly harass us and take photos of us without our consent. They even had their lawyer friend threaten me with grandparent’s rights to my nephew (my sister’s son), but luckily we had already consulted with a lawyer who informed us that there are no grandparent’s rights in South Carolina. When this crazy person’s lawyer called me and tried to bully me with legal jargon, I calmly stood my ground and refused to be intimidated by her tactics. Interestingly enough, this same lawyer had once represented me in court to increase my child support payments, but she failed miserably and caused me to end up not getting an increase. Needless to say, I learned that she was one of the worst lawyers I had ever encountered.

My sister Jaime was a strong-willed woman who didn’t tolerate any nonsense, especially from me or anyone else in her circle. She would always confront someone if she thought they were wrong, regardless of whether they were family or not. We had an argument right before her tragic death in 1999, but that’s normal for siblings to argue. The difference was, that I didn’t answer her call when she apologized, but I know she knew I loved her and wasn’t actually mad at her. My sister Jaime will never hear me say “I love you” again, or hear me tell her I’m not angry with her, but I’ve made peace with that in my heart. It’s completely untrue to say that my sister didn’t love me or would hate me for standing up against certain people – in Heaven, there is no hate. As Christians, we should understand that. Similarly, it’s also a lie to say that my beloved grandparents – who adored me – would hate me for speaking out against certain individuals. I never understood why some people use the death of others as revenge towards those they dislike. My sister Jaime could talk about our family, but no one else was allowed to do so. However, she wouldn’t tolerate any BS, like what I’ve been dealing with from her younger sister and mother. She had many issues with her younger sister over the years and we discussed it, but her mother often enabled her younger sibling to have disrespectful behavior towards adults by saying “They’re your sisters, you don’t have to listen to them.” Mind you, this same younger sibling was often dumped on both myself and my sister Jaime, friends of the mother and other family members, and therefore did not have a good upbringing from her mother. She has always been difficult to deal with since childhood and continues to have issues as an adult – which I have openly written about in the past. When you have children, isn’t it your responsibility as a parent to teach them how to be responsible adults? Don’t parents teach their children to take care of themselves and not rely on others? I raised my children with morals, respect for others, and the understanding that they must work hard for what they want in life. Both of my daughters have worked since they were young and have their own homes, cars, insurance, bills, and most importantly, they take care of their children. I didn’t raise weak children who depend on society to support them.

Jaime’s son was her whole world, and she loved him more than anything. But when he asked for a loan of $200, his own grandmother refused to help him. His grandmother claimed she needed all her money for her other grandson who was facing murder charges. It didn’t make sense that she wouldn’t even help her own grandson buy clothes for work. A month later, Jaime’s son came to me again for help, and my husband and I gladly assisted him. We had raised him since he was just 18 months old after his mother was murdered. Though the grandmother claimed to love this grandson, she couldn’t spare any money to help him. Just a few months ago, he came to me and my husband for help once more we were happy to provide it. But still, the grandmother claimed to love him deeply – shaking my head in disbelief. Despite this, Jaime never gave up on her son and always put his best interests first.

On my KNEE there is a C for Copyright/Watermark

Had to change my Copyright and watermarks because of people stealing photos that don’t belong to them.

I also want to mention something that most children get to experience: having loving and involved grandparents. Unfortunately, my children never had this privilege. Their so-called grandmother never made time for them during their formative years. They missed out on Easter Egg Hunts, birthday parties, school events, and simply spending quality time with their grandparents. Instead, they grew up resenting the woman who was supposed to be their grandmother, as she often pitted them against each other. She even refused to watch both of my daughters together, claiming it was too much for her. As a grandmother myself now, I cannot imagine not being there for my grandchildren’s milestones and everyday moments. I attend their school events and sports games, take them out to eat and shop, or just hang out with them. Even when I allowed the biological mother back into our lives in 2013, she always found excuses to miss important occasions such as my grandson’s soccer games or birthday parties. My daughter and son-in-law were not impressed when she finally showed up to one of my granddaughter’s parties, but they did it for me. It’s heartbreaking that she treated her own great-grandchildren this way while trying to maintain the facade of being a good grandmother in front of others. Anyone who allows her around another grandchild or great-grandchild is foolish in my opinion. My own children and grandchildren can attest to how they were mistreated by this woman. Both of my grandchildren would hate hugging her and her daughter because they couldn’t stand the smell and begged us not to make them hug them. She would give them trash from dumpsters for Christmas gifts while spoiling her own daughter and grandson with new items. My family quickly caught on to this unequal treatment and all the gifts she gave us ended up in the trash can. She even did the same thing to me, but I refused to keep anything she gave me except maybe 1% of it that wasn’t complete trash. Has anyone else ever had someone like this in their life, who constantly gave them hand-me-downs or dumpster finds?

FYI THESE FLOWERS ARE NOT EVEN A MONTH OLD $30 FOR FLOWERS FOR MY BABY SISTER! I HATE WHEN PEOPLE TRY TO ACT OR PORTRAY WHAT THEY ARE GOING DO WHEN THEY DO NOTHING AT ALL. AGAIN COME TO MY TOWN AND TO PLACES WE EAT BUT CLAIM WERE BOTHERING AND STALKING YALL. STOP FRONTING FOR A DAUGHTER YOU TREATED BADLY THAT WHY YOU FEEL SO GUILTY. I SAID WHAT I SAID TAKE THAT TO YOUR LAWYER MINE IS WATCHING ALSO

The photo above is my sister Jaime’s marker with flowers I bought from Hobby Lobby, not the trash dump! I also had fixed my sister’s vase as it would fall over and no one not even her father fixed it so I finally fixed it so it will never fall again.

This situation serves as a reminder that these individuals should have never reappeared in our lives. I was aware that they would attempt to harm my family, and I should have listened to my intuition. This experience has taught me the valuable lesson that not everyone who claims to be family truly is, and that they never had any intentions of being a supportive and loving family. Looking back, it’s clear to see all the ways she had hurt me in the past.

There is a recent post by my biological mother that I would like to address. She shared a meme about dusting off your feet and moving on, stating it was sad but true. However, upon reading the meme, I notice it implies I am a toxic family member who refuses to take accountability for my actions. This couldn’t be further from the truth. I have never caused any harm to these people, yet they continue to mistreat me. I will not apologize for speaking the truth and as for taking responsibility for damages, I have always welcomed them back into my life despite their hurtful actions. It is not my fault how they treat me; it is their own misguided perception. Healing sometimes means moving on without an apology and believe me, I have moved on plenty of times without ever receiving one from my biological mother who calls herself a parent. This account may have found you if you can relate, but the only thing I can relate to is having a terrible mother, grandmother, and great-grandmother in my life. Unfortunately, she seeks sympathy by spreading lies about her own family members, including myself. My attorney has assured me she has no case against me and only wishes to use the law for her own benefit. Despite this, I will not stoop to her level and will continue to pay my attorney to protect myself from her false accusations and manipulative tactics.

So if you are thinking of stealing photos from my blog post just know that there are “C” on them and they all have them which means they are under my COPYRIGHT and you can end up with a $10,000 fine for removing them and editing them when I have all the originals! So I had to make it larger on the photos because some crazy people are stealing them. They come to my site being nosy and then steal my photos and crop them which the “C” was on my KNEE she clearly is a total airhead and has no value for other people’s property so she steals it from my website! The thing about it doesn’t matter if it was your daughter or sister COPRIGHTING SOMEONE ELSE STUFF WILL LAND YOU IN A LEGAL ISSUE!