Most Mothers Aren’t The Same As Others

Most Mothers Aren’t The Same As Others

There are countless types of mothers in this world, each with their own unique approach to motherhood. The mother I had was more concerned about herself and making money than she was about her children. She often worked long hours, leaving us to be cared for by others. It’s hard to understand how a mother who carried her children for nine months could abandon her responsibilities. While it is understandable that parents have to work, most good parents still make time for their children after work. My birth mother would use me, even as a teenager, as a free babysitter for my youngest sister. At just 15 years old, I was changing diapers and taking care of a baby while dating my first husband. When I got married, my first husband and I were expected to take care of my youngest sister while my birth mother went out with her boyfriend at the time. My middle sister required some care as well, but she was more independent and didn’t need constant attention. When a mother neglects her duties towards her children, they learn to become self-sufficient. But how does a woman neglect her own children and their needs? I can already hear my birth mother defending herself in response to all of this, but the reality is that she has dumped her youngest daughter on so many people. It started with me, then continued with my middle sister, then onto friends Barb and Ron who also eventually got fed up with the youngest daughter – she would leave bloody underwear everywhere when she got her period, which was disgusting. Then the stepfather’s niece took on the responsibility of caring for the youngest daughter and had trouble with her as well – she always seemed to be getting into trouble at school. And finally, when the youngest daughter went to live with the stepfather and his wife, things only got worse. That same young girl caused drama wherever she went and caused a strain in many relationships.

When we lived on the property of the birth mother’s husband, she would use me to watch her daughter while she was away. This meant picking her up from school, making dinner, helping with homework, and getting her ready for bed before the birth mother returned from work and shopping after 5pm. It was disgusting to be used in this way by someone who should have been taking care of their own child. The birth mother would leave the two girls in the care of a teenager and make it my responsibility? This birth mother destroyed my childhood! It was my responsibility as a teenager to take care of this woman’s daughter, and it robbed me of my entire childhood. Helping out is one thing, but being forced into constant babysitting was too much, even when she wanted to go cheat on her husband at Shaw Air Force Base with her friend – which ended quickly when they were caught by the friend’s husband. Why would a mother choose to abandon her children and cheat instead? Because she has always put her men before her own children.

I was reminded of a memory from my past that I had long forgotten. When I was taken to Pee Dee Mental Health on Highway 52 in Florence, the paperwork showed that I reported my stepfather for abusing and sexually assaulting me. However, my birth mother will most likely deny it, just like she denies everything else. Being called a liar was a common occurrence for me as a child, to the point where I thought it was my name. My brother Jason went through the same thing, but my sister Jaime didn’t experience it until she reached her teenage years. The relationship between my youngest daughter and the birth mother has always been tumultuous. The birth mother has kicked her out multiple times and even moved her into run-down places, as shown in pictures of their last residence. Their constant Facebook arguments also reveal their strained relationship. It’s clear that the birth mother has always pitted her children against each other for her own benefit, as seen in the screenshots below. Notice in the one photo is the birth mother’s face with shades on she sent these photos to me. 

The next set of screenshots were from 2022 with the birth mother, her daughter, me, and my husband. The daughter had stolen items to sell online and the birth mother fussed about it. 

I’ve noticed that the birth mother and her daughter seem to think they are the only ones who save screenshots, but I have plenty more myself. Just like today, those same individuals posted the same nonsense on Facebook. It’s ironic how they claim to be Christians, yet their actions say otherwise. They must be a part of some kind of cult or fake Christianity.

To these two dimwits, it may seem like they have the power to hurt my feelings. But the truth is, I find their actions so ridiculous that I can’t help but laugh at them. As I’ve mentioned before in previous blog posts, there’s no love lost between us. Just the other day, someone told me about losing their mother on bad terms and I couldn’t relate. If anything, I wouldn’t be upset or heartbroken if I lost my birth mother. It’s hard for anyone else to understand the turmoil she has put me through over the years, constantly causing chaos whenever she reenters our lives. So if it were her time to leave this earth, I wouldn’t lose any sleep over it. I’ve made peace with not speaking to her or her daughter again and the Good Lord knows how many chances I’ve given her. And let’s not forget about all the lies she’s spread about money issues. I can already hear her complaints as she reads this section. But as I told someone recently, even though I’ve made peace with cutting ties with my birth mother, I won’t stop writing about it because it’s an important part of my story. If that hurts your feelings, then that’s your problem. Cutting ties with my birth mother is a decision I will never regret. How can you regret something you never had in the first place? The only thing I do regret is allowing her back into our lives in 2013, which turned out to be a terrible mistake. Anyway, here are some screenshots from the birth mother and her daughter on Facebook today. Stay tuned for more on Sunday.

Disclaimer: I was not compensated for this post. However, I received a free product(s) in exchange for my honest review.  All opinions expressed in my blog or review are 100% of Laurali’s Blog