Ending the Drama

Ending the Drama

 

 

Lately, I’ve been reflecting on the tumultuous relationship between the biological mother and her daughter, and I’ve come to a decision. I will be the one to put an end to this constant drama. It’s clear that these people have tried to tear apart my family and myself, but I refuse to engage in their destructive behavior any longer. It was difficult in the past when I cut off contact with the biological mother for 12 years, and although we have had some encounters since then, social media wasn’t as prevalent back then as it is now in today’s world.

Despite my words, I know that neither of them will change their behavior. However, we all have our own lives to live and we refuse to let their drama invade it. We don’t care about what happens in their lives, but we do hope that they face consequences for the lies and harm they’ve caused. I recently spoke to a preacher about the situation and showed him the posts and my responses to them, including when my daughter’s and grandchildren were attacked by these people. He was appalled and asked where these people attended church because their behavior was not in line with Christian values. I agreed, explaining the patterns of the biological mother’s claims about money being cut off, which never actually happened.

In 2018-2019, my husband went through congestive heart failure and COPD due to secondhand smoke, causing us financial strain as he was unable to work. The biological mother and her husband offered to help us during this time, but I was hesitant due to past experiences with her lying about similar situations. My husband reassured me that things had changed and urged me to accept their help. They paid off our car loan, and bankruptcy payments, and even replaced our leaky roof which was causing black mold. This is the only instance where we accepted money from them. We did ask if we could borrow $4800 for a down payment on our current home, promising to make payments to them in return. I kept all records of payments made through Paypal and Cashapp, except for one instance where I paid $200 in cash and did not receive a receipt from the biological mother who spent it all at Walmart. When she refinanced her house and paid off all her debts, including our loan, she gave us a Christmas card stating that the loan was paid in full along with a $100 cash gift which made me uneasy knowing how the biological mother operates.

What’s truly unfortunate about this situation is that multiple people were dragged into it, all in an attempt to harm my family. But their efforts failed; we are a resilient bunch and have overcome similar attacks from the biological mother and her daughter in the past. One thing I can say about my family is that we have never had any cases of child abuse or neglect, never had anyone involved in gangs or committed murder. The list could go on, but it’s pointless now. Is my family perfect? No, we’ve all made mistakes and learned from them. My children gained valuable experience by working during their teenage years and developed a strong sense of responsibility. They now own homes, and cars, and manage their finances without my assistance because they are responsible adults who take care of their families. What I cannot comprehend is how some people feel justified in making false reports to government and state offices to come after others. And let me make it clear: We’ve already checked with the proper authorities, and false reports do not end well for those who make them. No one has shown up so there is that part.

Moving forward, my blog will focus solely on product & movie reviews. I no longer want to waste my time addressing the ongoing drama between the biological mother and her daughter. They are not worth our attention or energy. I have always been truthful in sharing my experiences, with no reason to fabricate anything. In addition, I am joining an organization that supports children who have experienced abuse from their parents, step-parents, grandparents, or friends. It is important to put an end to the cycle of harm inflicted upon innocent children. As a survivor of childhood sexual abuse myself, I have been victimized further by the biological mother and her daughter’s shaming and disbelief. But the truth remains: no child should ever be made to feel responsible for the actions of their abuser. It has taken me many years to overcome the shame and guilt instilled in me by my abuser and enabler. The only closure I needed was for the stepfather to admit what he had done before his death, and that has now been accomplished. I share my story in hopes of empowering other survivors to speak out and seek help. Unless you have personally experienced childhood sexual abuse, it is impossible to understand the lasting impact it has on a person’s life. We carry deep scars that affect everything from our self-image to our intimate relationships. But through therapy and self-care, I have learned that it was never my fault; it was solely the fault of those who abused and betrayed my trust as a child.

 

Moving forward, all posts regarding the biological mother, her daughter, and my stepfather will be set as private. I am grateful for the support I have received and I hope you will continue to read my product and movie reviews.

Disclaimer: I was not compensated for this post. However, I received a free product(s) in exchange for my honest review.  All opinions expressed in my blog or review are 100% of Laurali’s Blog

 

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