A Narcissistic Mother & Her Daughter Telling Lies Part 2

I’m going to pick up where I left off with the birth mother and stepfather buying a large 5 bedroom double wide around 1979-1980. My room was on the very end room far away from the birth mother and stepfather’s bedroom they were on the other end of the home. So this is where my story starts to get bad for me as a child. See looking on the inside people thought we had a good family but behind these doors, it wasn’t a good family at all.  See the birth mother and stepfather had some nasty arguments because he was a habitual drunk, cheating on her with some bar females this is TRUE because he would drive her car sometimes to the bars and the birth mother would find footprints on the inside of the windshield. See my stepfather was a good worker he owned his own business so we lived comfortably but he was one that drank we saw him but he wasn’t one of those crazy beat-you-up drunks at least not to the children.  Let me explain this point of what happened to me as a child because the birth mother and the devil’s spawn seem to think they know so much about what happened to me that they throw it in my face and call me a liar whenever it suits their purpose of attacking me.  My stepfather would come into my room at night and fondle me and would dare me to say anything because he would hold me down and do what would satisfy his male needs. This went on from age 8-14 yrs old and he did this because he knew he could get away with it. But the birth mother knew what was going on and now she attacks me calling me a liar and my story has never changed ever. This is why children that have been sexually assaulted a lot of time don’t come forward and tell because the mothers make the children feel like it was their fault or they are lying.  This is the one thing that gets me with her I wasn’t the only child my stepfather did this to and she knew that she even stated it in the comments on one of my blog posts. 

When I was in the 3rd grade I told my best friend Kim about what happened to me and she told her mother and her mother told the birth mother in which the crazy birth mother acted like she didn’t believe me and then had a mind switch it might have happened let me take her to the ER and let the Dr. check her out. Well, that didn’t work out because the Dr. told her basically I was lying and that I had never been penetrated by a male so I was lying is what she said. How does a mother allow their husband to molest their children?  Jason knew what was going on we were both threatened if we told anyone that we weren’t believed and he could do whatever he wanted and no one would ever believe us! That’s right the birth mother ignored it and called me a liar and the molesting continued while she would be in bed asleep, at the grocery store yeah he knew when he could take advantage of me. But because my mother was one that was up all night long 99.9% I was safer but she would leave us with him to go to the store and that was the dreaded part for me.

See in the birth mother’s mind molesting involved putting a male part into a child but see he was smarter than that. I will leave that right there because he knew what he had done to me and the only person I needed to own it was him and he did several years before his death. I went through therapy for what happened to me but not until I was an adult because the birth mother I had didn’t believe her husband could do that to her children.  But it did happen to my sister Jaime by her own father same man that did this to me. She and I talked about it and yeah if the birth mother had been a mother and protected her children this wouldn’t happen again. But again she failed at parenting 101 she has never been a good mother or grandmother.

Then as time went on we moved to Darlington, S.C. on Orange Street in a trailer park in a 2 bedroom single wide. This was the birth Mother, Stepfather, Jaime, and me.  Then the birth mother got pregnant around the time her mother died literally but then started claiming that my stepfather raped her while she was on medication because she had poison ivy and that is how she became pregnant with the devil’s spawn child who literally had red hair no kidding. I hated the birth mother for having this child because I knew it would fall on me to be the babysitter and take care of the devil’s spawn child and she literally was that.  So by this point, I met my soon-to-be husband at 14 years old he was 6 1/2 years older than me but knew what was going on in my house and he knew about the molestation was one of the reasons he married me to get me out of that house. But if you were to hear it from the birth mother she would tell a different story of why I got married.  Back before I got married to my 1st husband the birth mother would leave both my sister Jaime and the devil’s spawn on me to watch and be responsible for them 14-15 years old.  She has always been this way she will create a lie to make herself look like she was doing all she could that is how she works at manipulating people including her children. So the birth mother did exactly what I expected her to do she replied to the comments on my post and sure enough she made it about her and then stated I was trying to get attention NO I’m telling the truth about all of this because somehow she has conveniently forgotten what actually happened again she has always been delusional and a bit of dementia setting in or that selective memory its anyone of these with her.

See my stepfather had an issue with cheating on his wives so this wasn’t anything new. My stepfather was married before and had a history of cheating on his 1st wife so it was already a pattern. So see my stepfather’s male family members have molested some of the younger girls in the family so I believe this goes way back with his family something happened for the few males in the family and my stepfather to molest young girls. But I ended up enduring the constant abuse when I should have never had a male touching my private areas to pleasure his needs. I had often wanted to run away to escape the abuse but I was scared I was a CHILD that was called a liar like he said I would be and said if you tell no one will believe you because you already lie so your mother won’t believe you. Yes, I was a typical child that told a white lie but why all the abuse maybe she was wanting me to be abused by him that way he wouldn’t bother her is the way it seemed in my eyes. So when she refused sex he snuck into my room and put his hand on me and dared me to make a sound all while I was being sexually assaulted by my stepfather. See my bedroom was on the very end and the birth mother couldn’t hear anything and he knew it. It definitely messed me up because I don’t wear certain things because of the showing skin, and I don’t enjoy sex because my stepfather ruined that for me so definitely messed that up for me as an adult both my ex-husband and current husband would agree to that they both knew why and knew the story. Plus I went to therapy as an adult and had to work through it because it played a major issue for me.

See the birth mother had several friends but one she was close to Lynn was her name. We as kids grew up together she had 3 children and the birth mother had 3 children that lived with her the other 2 children lived with their father in Nebraska where she left them. It wasn’t long before their marriage would be in trouble again. But I do believe at that time the birth mother was cheating with my uncle who was my stepfather’s brother keeping it in the family so to say. So the birth mother and her female long-time friend started going to Shaw Air Force Base to meet young guys and we all know what came after that 2 older women meeting young guys come on. This became a thing with her so I ended up babysitting a lot for my sister Jaime she was 7-8 yrs old and then the younger devil’s spawn child I would have to feed, and took them with me when on a date with my before I married my 1st husband he would have to take me and the 2 siblings and yes there are people to back that story up don’t make me bring that part to the surface because they were in shock that I was carrying around a small child and my middle sister like I was the parent with a diaper bag and all. I was 14 years old being a parent to your children all while you worked by day and by night would go to Shaw Air Force Base with her friend Lynn. See she has always been the type of person who never wanted to be a parent but kept having children why? Seriously I have tried to make sense of why she did the things she did.  I clearly will never get answers from her because they will all be lies that come out of her mouth. 

So by this point, I am spending more time with my soon-to-be husband and his family, and the tag-along devil’s spawn child. See the birth mother was the one that dumped my sister Jaime and the devil’s spawn child on me all the time. That was always her pattern to not care about her children only when it benefited her needs or wants. It wasn’t too long after that the birth mother and stepfather decided to move to Cold Springs, N.Y. for my stepfather to make more money and yes of course the birth mother worked in a deli. So I went to school but then they needed a babysitter to take care of the devil’s spawn child so I dropped out of school I even have the proof of that. To hear it from the birth mother I just dropped out of school because the couple that was living under the same roof the girl was 16 years old and her boyfriend was 6 years older than her as well. The girl had been watching the devil’s spawn but she wanted to go to work so she started working at the pharmacy. The birth mother and stepfather stated they needed me to watch the devil’s spawn but to hear it from the birth mother that isn’t how it went down but it is!  So I took care of the devil’s spawn child while they worked. I even got a part-time job at a deli to make money because they weren’t paying me to take care of their child. They told me they shouldn’t have to pay me because it’s part of my responsibility to help. Then my soon-to-be husband came to N.Y. to work and be there with me in the same house so he knew what was going on with that whole situation before we went to N.Y. and what went on in N.Y.  It wasn’t long before we came back to South Carolina and that was interesting, to say the least. Now here is where the birth mother claimed my 1st husband never lived with us in Cold Springs, N.Y. so again she is delusional because he lived under the same roof and slept on the couch downstairs but she commented on my blog posts stating that never happened but it did he flew from South Carolina to N.Y. 

I want to add something here because I know that those special person or persons are reading this I haven’t mentioned any names but I have mentioned the ones that have passed away and that is legal. So if you feel this is about you then maybe it is or maybe it’s not but what I write is legal and nothing you can do about it because I haven’t broken any laws by writing my life story of how bad I was treated as a child and as an adult by the birth mother that is a narcissist. 

Come back for part 3 because it will get more interesting because there will be several parts to this so you won’t want to miss one part or you want to get the whole story. Also, I haven’t mentioned any names of people that are Alive only people that are deceased so don’t come at me saying I said anyone’s name that is Alive! This is my story and if you don’t like it then don’t read it but this is the truth and I would even swear on the Bible and that isn’t something I like to say about bringing the Bible into it but this is all TRUTHFUL and only certain people live in denial of what happened. 

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